I’ve come to realize, that for me, my social anxiety is a bit like a tiger attack. The tiger jumps out of no where and tries to eat you; somehow you survive the tiger attack. A normal person eventually would go “Wow, I’m lucky, I survived that!”. To me, the tiger is always lurking the the shadows, and I fear the tiger for long periods afterwards. If said tiger is a person that I interact with regularly, it is possible that the tiger will recede and even vanish, however if the same thing happens again the tiger just gets larger in my mind.
Anything stressful that is new is a tiger (or other wild beast) to me. Some of these new stressful situations are long and drawn out causing a tremendous amount of anxiety, others are smaller and go away more easily, it really just depends on the situation. Also, once one attack happens in a day, thee next one will feel bigger than it would have otherwise, they seem to have a compounding effect.
Today started with a new squirrel attack, nothing major, then an ongoing polar bear attack texted me, a lion attack happened, and then a recurrent wolf attack called me. I was shaking and feeling like I would vomit by the time I got home.
Today is the first day in quite a while that I’ve had issues. I have been doing much better recently. I’ve been managing my stress better, and to be honest I listened to some good advice. A doctor I trust very much was talking to me about my anxiety and was suggesting I try a medication. I didn’t want any as I’ve been dealing with this for almost my entire life, and it’s been a point of pride that I haven’t needed medication. but “wouldn’t it be better if you didn’t have to wake up and feel that way every day? What if you could wake up and feel better?”.
I thought about that for about two months before I decided to try a very low dose of a medication. That low dose makes a TON of difference in my life. I’ve gone over a month with minimal anxiety, today was just a really bad day. It’s made it possible to eat better, to exercize, to take care of myself, to do the things I knew I needed to do but was unable to because of my anxiety. I didn’t realize how much my anxiety was effecting until it started going away.
So the long and short of it is- social anxiety for me is waiting for attacks to happen (real or imagined), listening to others is helpful, and medication has made it easier for me to live my life.